Thursday, August 20, 2020

Your New Life Is Going To Cost You Your Old One


A woman that we've known for quite a few years posted a quote on her Facebook wall that caught my attention. Accompanying the quote was an insightful paragraph that summed up how the quote related to her personally. It caught my attention because Lisa and I have experienced something similar since buying our house and moving back in February.

The quote is by Brianna Wiest...

"Your new life is going to cost you your old one. 
It's going to cost you your comfort zone and your sense of direction.
It's going to cost you relationships and friends. 
It's going to cost you being liked and understood.
But it doesn't matter.
Because the people who are meat for you are going to meet you on the other side. 
And you're going to build a new comfort zone around the things that actually move you forward.
And instead of liked, you're going to be loved.
Instead of understood, you're going to be seen. 
All you're going to lose is what was built for a person you no longer are.
Let it go."

I read it over and over again.

It hit home.

All of it.

The paragraph our friend wrote accompanying the quote hit home even more...

"So do better in life and everyone disappears. You will be talked about, you will be ridiculed, but those people are just upset they didn't have guts to do it. In life, there are hard choices and to be successful means you leave those people in your hindsight because they never wanted what was best for you anyway."

In our situation, I don't think it was a situation of people not wanting the best for us and our kids. Lisa says I people the benefit of the doubt more times than I should. 

And she's not wrong.

I want to believe people wanted the best for us and our kids, but that may not be the case.

I think our situation was more along the lines of people not wanting us to leave because we were always there. We served a purpose. We were always there no matter what. Doing this. Doing that. Cooking and baking. Hosting gatherings. Pet and house sitting. Helping out with projects and yard work and almost everything between.

A lot of people relied on us. 

Our decision to buy a house was a culmination of a lot of things and some of those things were affecting our daily life and well being as a family. Despite standing our ground and speaking up and out, things were not resolved. They did not improve. 

They. Got. Worse.

As I have mentioned before, there was a single week in November when realized it was out of control after 2 confrontations. After the second confrontation, Lisa said, "After the holidays, we're buying a house."

Less than 3 months later, that's exactly what we did. 

Ironically, yesterday when I spotted that quote on our friend's Facebook wall, it was also our 6-month house-aversary. 

And we noticed a lot between February and yesterday. That became more apparent on our wedding anniversary and Lisa's birthday. 

Yeah, we noticed. 

Maybe stumbling across that quote on our friend's Facebook wall was the Universe's way of letting us know that we made the right decision all the way around. 

Not that we needed that confirmation...

The Universe was saying, "Let it go..."

But more so, that it was okay to let go and to focus our efforts on our new life. The people who are still there. The people who see us. The people who love us. The people who have reached out to us. The people who are continuously happy for us. Who cheered for us. The people who have unexpectedly taken us by surprise with gifts and donations for Bodacious DIY Dog Mom Projects. 

Like our friend, we're living our best life. In the most kindest and humblest of ways. 

We're still spreading the love and kindness and doing what we do.

But, we've lived. 

We've learned. 

We are aware. 

And, we are embracing those shimmy shakes from the Universe.

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