About a week before we closed on our new house, Lisa doled out a little advice to me. Out of the blue. At Home Depot while shopping for our first round of new house items. Her advice took me by surprise despite the fact that when she makes a statement as such, it happens.
She said...
"Over the next couple of weeks, we will realize who is there for us. Who is not. Who will remain in our tribe. Who will not. Who has our backs. Who doesn't have our backs."
Coming from Lisa, that was a rather big statement. I knew she was right. That is probably why my response was inhaling and exhaling slowly.
Because.
I honestly wanted to believe otherwise. I wanted to have faith and trust that the solidarity we had with certain people would remain after we left.
I wanted to believe that these people who we had grown extraordinarily close with over the years would have our backs.
Or, at the very least, if they had questions about things they heard through the grapevine, they could ask us. We could have conversations. Face to face.
But.
That did not exactly happen.
Over the past couple of weeks, we have got an inside view as to what happens when you do what is best for you and your family...
1. You learn who was and still is really in your tribe.
2. You discover that some people only valued the services and conveniences you provided for them.
3. You learn who genuinely appreciated you simply for your existence.
4. You learn who has your back and who doesn't.
5. You learn that there are many other people who have always been there and who will continue to be there unconditionally.
6. You learn to knock down a few walls and open your circle to those people.
7. You learn there is life and love and light beyond your old home.
8. You learn the people who you were there for the most will turn on you and say the most hateful things without a second thought.
9. You learn that some people who you thought were family will believe them.
10. You learn how to forgive, close chapters, move on, and embrace the new chapters.
Yeah.
It happened.
But.
We have embarked on a new chapter.
We're embracing it.
Old friends.
New friends.
New adventures.
She said...
"Over the next couple of weeks, we will realize who is there for us. Who is not. Who will remain in our tribe. Who will not. Who has our backs. Who doesn't have our backs."
Coming from Lisa, that was a rather big statement. I knew she was right. That is probably why my response was inhaling and exhaling slowly.
Because.
I honestly wanted to believe otherwise. I wanted to have faith and trust that the solidarity we had with certain people would remain after we left.
I wanted to believe that these people who we had grown extraordinarily close with over the years would have our backs.
Or, at the very least, if they had questions about things they heard through the grapevine, they could ask us. We could have conversations. Face to face.
But.
That did not exactly happen.
Over the past couple of weeks, we have got an inside view as to what happens when you do what is best for you and your family...
1. You learn who was and still is really in your tribe.
2. You discover that some people only valued the services and conveniences you provided for them.
3. You learn who genuinely appreciated you simply for your existence.
4. You learn who has your back and who doesn't.
5. You learn that there are many other people who have always been there and who will continue to be there unconditionally.
6. You learn to knock down a few walls and open your circle to those people.
7. You learn there is life and love and light beyond your old home.
8. You learn the people who you were there for the most will turn on you and say the most hateful things without a second thought.
9. You learn that some people who you thought were family will believe them.
10. You learn how to forgive, close chapters, move on, and embrace the new chapters.
Yeah.
It happened.
But.
We have embarked on a new chapter.
We're embracing it.
Old friends.
New friends.
New adventures.
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