One of the most empowering moments of our life together happened a year ago today. It's the day when we toured this house with our realtor and, within an hour, made an offer. Shortly after 8 p.m. that evening, we received a text that our offer was accepted.
A lot of things happened before that moment.
About a year prior, we put our foot down with a lot of things and started speaking up. We thought that would resolve a lot of the issues.
We were wrong.
Little by little, day by day, the frustrations and stress multiplied and our daily life was affected. Lisa. Our Kids. Myself. As a Work at Home Dog Mom, it was an enormous issue.
We held out. We had hope that things would change or, at the very least, improve. But, that wasn't the case.
In November of 2020, the situation peaked. Twice in a single week. Although both of us were pissed off at how the situation was handled both times, we realized this was it.
More so, during the second incident, the owner of the house we lived in mentioned that she couldn't wait to put the house up for sale the following Spring. A couple of other things were said that deeply concerned us as well.
After the second incident, Lisa looked at me and said, "After Christmas, we're buying a house."
I'll be the first to admit that when Lisa said, "We're buying a house" in the past, I let it roll down my back. I convinced her that things would change. We loved our home and our neighborhood and our neighbors who had become friends and family to us.
That night, I didn't let it roll down my back. Everything about her demeanor, her stance, her voice, and the look in her eyes let me know that she was serious. Instead of letting it roll down my back and offer encouraging words, I sat there.
I knew.
It was time.
Yes, we loved the home we lived in for almost 8 years, however, it was time to surrender.
For the obvious reasons.
For the not so obvious reasons.
For what we had gone through back in late 2014 when the previous owner put the house on the market and not wanting to go through that again.
For coming to the conclusion that the previous and current issues were not going to budge and were only going to get worse.
For knowing that if the house was sold there was a possibility that the new owner would opt for "owner occupancy" and we'd have to find another home. In this day and age, rentals are expensive and it's always, "NO pets."
We surrendered.
That is one of the hardest things to do.
But.
It is also very empowering.
It clears the path to many opportunities.
It allows for growth and moving forward.
In our case, it was about taking charge and growing and moving on.
During the first week of 2020, we were approved for a house loan.
On this day, a year ago, our realtor gave us a physical tour of 2 houses that we had viewed online out of dozens.
We knew this was the perfect house for our family and it was well within our budget.
After the tour, we headed to our favorite restaurant for breakfast. In the parking lot, we sent a text to our realtor and made an offer.
The rest of the day was kind of a blur. We kept busy to distract ourselves from the stress of waiting to see if the offer was accepted.
Shortly after 8 that evening, while we were enjoying family snuggle time on the sofa and watching Netflix, we got the text.
The sellers accepted our offer.
We jumped off the sofa and did one of the biggest Happy Dances ever.
The rest, as they say, is history...
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